The Ready for marriage? Post started last week, I hope you could relate to the points posted. Today rounds up the series, read enjoy and act on them .
YOUR FINANCE……….. This is very important.
Discuss about your source of income.
Financial issues are a bone of contention in
many marriages. The way funds are
appropriated in a marriage should be given
serious attention and resolved before tying the
knot, in order to avoid bitter arguement and
quarrels in the home. Some of the things to
ask as far as finances is concerned include
~what is you both view on being extravagant,
thrifty or stingy.
~are we going to have a joint account or
~who will control the family expenditure.
~are we going to share expenditure.
~do you know both income, I mean, do you
both know how much each of you earn.
Who is fussy about financial accountability
between you both.
YOUR SEXUALITY……….. This aspect can never
be over emphasized in any marriage and it has
been one of the causes of many problems in
many marriages. Therefore, discuss it
extensively while courting, some people use to
shy away from it and after marriage, it raises
its ugly head in such a way that if care is not
taken, it can scatter the marriage.
Question that may be asked here include……….
~how sexually active are you
~are you a virgin
~do you believe in s ex before marriage
~are you sexually attracted to a certain
physique, for example, anyone who is sexually
attracted to a slim person has no business
dating a fat person and vice versar
~do you prefer a particular complexion in the
YOUR HEALTH………….. Under this you discuss
some pertinent questions like
~ Are you both ready and willing to undergo a
comprehensive medical screening
~what are your views on exercise and fasting
~what are the medical problems you’ve had in
~What are the the medical history in you both
~who falls ill often and less often between you
YOUR RESPECT……….. Mutual respect in
marriagedetermines to a great extent how a
marriage turns out. To regard a person with
esteem, you need to have an appreciable level
of repect for such a person. Some important
question to ask here include
~can you proudly introduce your spouse-to-be
to your friends and relatives
~do I relate to this person as my friend
~do I accept his or her friends as ny friends
~is there mutual giving and sharing in this
Do I like the way he or she makes decision
~do we bring out the best from each other
~do I like the way this person makes decision
~am I constantly in conflict with him or her
~will I be drained of my
individuality,personality, creativity, dreams
and hopes, self respect,dignity and significance
if I go on to marriage with this person.
YOUR EDUCATION…….. The interpretation of
issues and events greatly depend on one’s
educational background, therefore, it has to be
threshed out, in order to prevent unnecessary
frictions in your marriage. If you are the type
that will want your partner to have at least
first degree, you don’t have business with
anyone below that educational level, except he
or she is ready and willing to upgrade him or
YOUR COMMUNICATION……….. Inability to
communicate differences and problems out in
a marriage put a great danger in such a
marriage, therefore, communication, effective
and efficient one is beneficial to the success of
Right from courtship, examine if
~you interact freely with your intended spouse
~he or she listen to suggestions, ideas, and
~if he or she talks down on you
~if he or she listen when you talk
~if he or she discuss issues or avoid issues
~if you are free to disagree with him or her on
~if he maintains healthy communication
All in all, marriage counsellors will do a
wonderful job for you if you seek for their
services. But above all, a three-fold cord is not
easily broken, invite God and lean on Him and
He will direct your path to the right person.
However, don’t forget to be a right partner in
order to attract a right partner, remember.
Like attract likes.
May God help us all.